Buying a Home? Start with Your Values.
Buying a Home? Start with Your Values.
Thinking about buying a home? Before you even look at listings or talk to a lender, take a moment to pause. Ask yourself: What matters most to me right now?
I was showing a first-time home buyer houses recently. I reminded her that this isn't necessarily her forever home. This house can be a stepping stone or a launching pad. You can buy it, live there for a few years, and then sell it. Or, you could even use it as your first investment property and rent it out!
Here's the truth: when your values are clear, making decisions becomes much easier. This is especially true in real estate. So, start by figuring out what you value most in this stage of your life.
At Legacy Realty Advisors, we see this happen all the time. Our clients who make the most confident and well-suited real estate choices aren't just looking for the biggest house for their money. They're grounded in something deeper. They know who they are, what they need, and what they're working towards. We call this living with intention, and it really shows in how you approach your home search. If you're not sure what that looks like for you, that's where I come in! I love helping people make the best decisions for themselves!
The 5 F's That Guide Every Legacy Journey
We believe that every great decision aligns with your Faith, Family, Fitness, Finances, and Fun. These are the cornerstones of a life well-lived, and they absolutely apply to your real estate journey too.
Here’s how:
Faith
What do you believe about this next chapter of your life? Is it time to simplify and downsize? Are you looking to put down roots? Are you hoping for a fresh start in a new neighborhood? Your beliefs shape your vision. When you're clear about what you're trusting for, the right home will bring you peace and purpose.
Family
Do you need space for parents who are getting older? A big yard for visiting grandchildren? Or perhaps a quiet place now that your kids have moved out? Your home should support your family, not the other way around. Knowing what your family needs, and what they'll need soon, makes your search more focused and rewarding.
Fitness
This isn't just about exercise equipment. Your physical health, mental well-being, and even your daily movement habits are important. Will you walk your dog every morning? Do you need easy access to walking trails or a nearby gym? Do you want a kitchen that makes healthy eating simpler? The right home should support your lifestyle, not get in the way of it.
Finances
This one seems obvious, but it's more than just "what can I afford?" It's about what kind of life do you want your home to support financially? Do you want to live comfortably below your means so you can travel more? Are you looking to build wealth through house-hacking? Or are you choosing a higher price point because the peace of mind from a premium location is worth it? All of these are valid choices, as long as they are your choices, not decisions made under pressure.
Fun
Yes, fun should be part of buying a home! What brings you joy? Hosting parties, backyard cookouts, or finally creating that cozy reading nook? Don't forget to ask yourself: What will make me feel truly alive in this space? Your home should bring you happiness, not just be a place to live.
Real Clients, Real Alignment
Just last month, one of our buyers was about to commit to a home that seemed perfect on paper. But something felt off. After a weekend trip with their family, they returned with a clear realization: “It’s just not us.”
That moment of clarity came from focusing on their values. They understood they didn't want to move further out, even for a larger house. What they truly cherished was being part of a community, having walkability, and being close to their church.
They ended up finding a smaller home in a closer neighborhood, and they absolutely love it. That’s the power of knowing your values.
Questions to Help You Clarify Your Values Before You Buy
If you're thinking about moving in Tulsa or the surrounding areas, here are a few questions we often ask our clients when they start their journey:
What does “home” mean to you right now?
What would your perfect weekend look like in your new place?
Who will be sharing your home, and how do they need the space to work for them?
What do you need more of in this next season? What do you need less of?
What are the absolute must-haves that support your core values?
Your Realtor Should Care About Your Values, Too
Not every real estate agent takes the time to ask these important questions. But at Legacy Realty Advisors, we believe the most valuable thing we can do is help you make decisions that fit your entire life. We're not here to pressure you into a sale. We're here to help you build a life that truly aligns with what matters most to you. That's what building a legacy is all about.
Three Takeaways to Remember
Values bring clarity. When you know what's important, decisions become less overwhelming.
Saying "no" makes room for the right "yes." Don't be afraid to walk away from something that doesn't feel right.
You don't have to go it alone. The right real estate team will help you connect your values to your next big move.
Your Turn
Whether you're buying your first home or your fifth, take some time this week to think about your values. What are you building? Who are you becoming? And how can your next home support that vision?
📞 If you're looking for a realtor in Tulsa who leads with intention and cares about your whole life, I'd love to guide you on this journey. Let's build your legacy together.
Contact Jennifer Mount at 918.671-6836
